holding on - i think i might have mislead you, HE didn't call it dirty and nasty, that was me making a comment, he only said what i said he said in quotes. us taking a shower together? um, that only happened ONCE in our married life. he wont have that. thanks for stopping by!
shiny - so what your saying shiny is that i should give it a try???? LOL
{{{{PAM}}}} - i was so happy to read that you took care of everything last night, and got back on your medication - that is the most important thing. these feelings will dissapate as the meds get back into your system. i am so glad you were here amoung all your friends and they helped you thru this. i am actually very happy david came to your rescue - lotsa love pam!!!
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journaling - oh my gosh, got into a heated argument this morning and all the old feelings came back to haunt me. it was NOT a relationship argument but one of our famous "he said she said" things. how conviently he forgets what he says only 5 minutes ago and puts the blame on me for the argument.
but what is interesting is that after he left and we just grunted at each other goodbye, i called him to apologize. that is SO NOT LIKE ME - that is what i call a most definite 180 for me. yes sirree - i tried to make it better. he was still bitter i could tell but also shocked that i called.
for a moment there tho, i was ready to toss in the towel. the feelings of i am trying to make this work and he isn't stuck to me like glue for what seemed like eons of time. but then i thought, will this get me closer to my goal? i said no, suck in your pride and call him and apologize. and now i have vowed to not let it affect me for the rest of the day. oh yeah, i think i am catching on
he is under stress cause of this bladder thing and he has a dr's appt today and i really didn't take all of that under consideration when i blew off this morning.
T2, This is all very interesting! As we had stopped the kissing thing too. I thought my H decided that was being too close. But reading your post makes me lean to your way of thinking. My H thinks he is dirty from OW and that is way he doesn't touch or kiss. I'm be using that "touch" thing on my H and see where it gets me! Good idea! Deb
just found this on another board i go to (it's on weight loss)
Quote: Success is not a secret. It is a choice that is made over and over again. Success is not something that can be denied to you. It is something that you can always choose to accept. How do you accept success? You accept success by making the effort instead of making excuses. You accept success by taking responsibility instead of counting on someone else to do it for you. You accept success by being truthful with others and, just as importantly, with yourself.
You accept success when things get tough, by being positive and innovative instead of becoming despondent. You accept success by being who you are and by contributing what you can, rather than pretending to be someone else.
Every day you can choose either to accept success or to just let it pass you by. With each thought, each word, each action, choose to accept success.
-- Ralph Marston
i thought it fit quite nicely with what we are all trying to do!!!
thanks for checking in on me. i have actually had to deal with a sick child all day, so time on the boards has been very limited
just wanting to check in tho and let everyone know things are going good
yesterday hubby came home and asked me to sit on the couch with him, so i sat down, he said, get a little CLOSER i said OK - he wanted me to look at a wish list booklet of computers with him
it's little things like that which let me know that he is thinking future with me. just doesn't know how to handle it yet
patience will be my strong suit when this is all done!!!
i found this quote in going back on old posts here, boy does it hold true, in my opinion
Quote: A person does not fall in love with another person because of how they feel about that person, but because of how that person makes them feel about themself.
pam, what an awesome quote thanks so much!!! you see, your always checking in on people, how caring is that????
my "horoscope"
Quote: You see them at the seaside sometimes. Little plastic frogs that bob up and down on a turning wheel. You get a hammer. Your challenge is to bash as many of them as you can on the head. This fairground leisure pursuit bears a worrying resemblance to a process we go through every day in real life. Those frogs are our problems. That mallet is our determination. The wheel never stops turning, but remember, even if you don't hit all those frogs, most bob back down under of their own accord if you just let them.
just let them go eh?
another day with a sick daughter, so not much time on the boards today, sorry folks, hopefully will be back in force on monday!
I like your horoscope! He usually gives something that is good advice.
Sorry about your sick daughter.
I know you aren't going to have much time today but if you get a chance could you check on Gripman in Newcomers? You posted to him back when he first posted.
He hasn't posted in awhile but he posted on my thread last night that his wife has filed and he has been real down. I looked his thread up this morning but didn't have time to read all through it.
Plus advice isn't my strong suite. Encouragement.
I will save you some cake and ice cream, since I'm serving on Saturday. But that is David's 40th birthday!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
