Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

So I am a bit confused and at a loss for how to respond right now.

On one hand, we are 5 weeks away from a scheduled Retrouvaille session - and I am trying to follow the advice of "Don't rock the boat"

Also, and of real concern is the crisis with her mom, and my real desire to "have her back" (thanks Greek) through this. Despite it all, I want to be there for her where she needs it.

But...

At the same time, W is starting to once again trample on some of the boundaries that I have clearly set during the past 8 months.

Example: No Contact with OM. I have had to clearly express this one numerous times in the past 8 months. She breaks off contact, then after a while starts reaching out to him again - until I stumble on it. A number of months ago I clearly and calmly asked her to delete him from her facebook friends because she was using it to watch him and stay in contact. She complied.

Now, I just got notified by Facebook that my W has a new "Friend" - OM.

This is a deliberate act to re-establish contact, and one she had to know I would notice (Facebook announces it!)

So on one hand, be supportive, don't rock the boat, don't start R discussions -- while on the other hand I have to enforce this boundary and can't let a blatant sign of disregard for me and our M go unremarked....

...and on top of it all I am leaving in the morning for a 4-day business trip (The one in which I am visiting her mom) and won't talk to her face to face for a while (she is not here tonight, which is probably a good thing...)

So what to do? What to do? How to act?

All new territory for me...