Sandi really explains things so well, and gives great advice.
It is really hard to 'control' teens, and this can be a great 'teachable' moment for your son. Probably if you can explain to him that being reactive will usually end up causing him more pain, because of the repercussions, it might help. Then explore with him other ways of dealing with his anger over this situation. You may have already done all that.
It's ok for your H and his lady friend to have a consequence like this.
I like your attitude in the midst of this. I don't know if you're really as 'together' as you seem, but you do seem to do a good job managing your stress and the situation, as tough as it is.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
