Limbo...you CAN save this marriage...but there are some things you need to accept RIGHT NOW so you can save your family and marriage.
First, you are in this alone. Yes, your kids are on your side, but she's not. She's on her own side and really she sounds pretty confused. (Another reason to stop R talks, don't let her say the D word.) You are going to have to carry 99.9% of this relationship on your back....and it's going to hurt. But you CAN do it.
Second, she crazy. Not truly, as in she needs to be admitted to the looney bin, but she's still having a nutty.
Write down your 180's and stick to them. For example, she says "I want a divorce." Your normal reaction is to get into it with her, convinced this is the conversation where she's going to "get it". Not a chance brother. You are NOT going to talk her into stay. You can only "action" her into staying. So what you do is nothing. What you say to her is this "I understand that's what you are thinking right now. I believe you believe it. That makes me sad. But I can't talk about this right now. I'm just not there yet. Thanks for respecting that boundary for me." Smile, walk away.
OK, what are your other 180's? What are you doing to GAL?
