Don't ask - just give him a quick peck on the cheek, very nonchalantly - experiment and observe. And here, I'm going to share a secret with you I haven't put on the board before. Be forewarned, I have NO IDEA whether this stuff actually works or not - but when things were bad with my H and I, I ordered some pheromones that you add to your perfume (from a place called Athena I think - you can find it on the internet). Not cheap - about $100 - and I felt like a fool doing it - but my H did gradually warm to me after that. Maybe I just felt more self-confident - maybe I was just wearing perfume more often - maybe it was just all my other DBing. Who knows? Desperate times call for desperate measures.(Perfume recommendation - Indecence by Givenchy - I've never worn a perfume that so many men complimented me on before).