SH, I practice "STOP" a lot when around H. I stop saying "all" my thoughts. I stop being sarcastic. I stop turning emotional all the time. I actually think you are doing great from what you wrote when you are areound H. Just concentrate on each occasion and make it a fun event for everyone involved, be it family dinner or school events. I remember "back then" when he was actively involved with H, H and I would just go out for a drink, and we chatted happily for a few hours. I made myself stopped all thoughts on the situation and just had fun. And he said "I can live with you forever this way." And he said that when he was deep in the A. What I want to say is, BE (not just show or pretend) that you are a fun and great person to be around with. It's good for your own sake anyway. And if your H happens to be around, invite him to join the fun but let him decide. OC
