BUNS, ABS, AND HEART OF STEEL #3

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Trusting, Well, although OW shouldn't have the say, I am inclined to think that the kids should understand that participation in the events honors their grandmother. I'm not sure if I would make an older child go. I might. But that's what your X should say, not OW.

Your X is under some extremely stressful conditions. His R is not good, he lost a family member, money worries, etc.. So of course he is very very stressed out.

I would not look at this as having anything to do with you. It's not. It is that H has to have OW play a certain role here that is generally reserved for family members, and his R is not good. Also, the stress of losing a family member takes a very long time.

I would expect an explosion from him, just because of where he is right now. At least I would expect it from my H. Just don't assume it's about you. If possible, it might be worth it to say gently "This isn't about me, and I am sorry about all the things that have been happening."

I do hope you had an after-hours goodbye.