Steve, Never be a door mat! Live your life to the fullest. You will now have to be "both" parents for a while to your children. If you want to go somewhere and take the children, then do so. You can always invite her, but put the ball in her court to make her own decision.
Yes, you have a teenager on your hands and you will discover that she will not be the person you once knew. In fact, in many cases, you will not like the person she's become. She was stunted early on in her childhood and now she must go back to that time and recreate the scenario in order to grow up.
The decision is in your court as to how long you want to put up w/your situation. Many will waffle and fall, but we are right there to pick them up again and keep them moving forward. We will do the same for you. You will have to find a happy medium that will work for you. Maybe consider her a roommate for a while and see how it goes...You will need to keep your expectations at zero at all times and never expect her to tell you the truth about anything she's doing or done. Do not expect her to be reliable and at some point her memory will become mush and she will be extremely forgetful.
Always remember...we are here for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
