Don't hang on to every word or statement she makes...we have a tendency to do that. It's not in our best interests to do it, and it's not in their best interests either. It makes them feel uncomfortable to communicate because they're afraid that you'll hang on to every word or statement they make...then they clam up. Don't want that. She may say or feel something completely different 2 hours from the time she said that anyway! It's a rollar-coaster ride, man! Take care of YOU, first and foremost. Get stronger and let some time pass...lots of time. And work on patience...learn it, live it.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.