Our divorce was final on July 22. married 13 yrs. together 18. Iam 42 wife is 38 and seeing someone. I still desparately love and gone about this process all wrong. She said all the typical stuff. I did not pay enough attention, she did not feel loved and all the script stuff.I thought we had a good marriage. the family did everything together. Her moving out on Dec. 30 with the kids was a complete shock. I suspected this fella from day 1 but she was good and I just found out yesterday. I have pursued begged cried text. you name it I have done it all wrong and cant seem to get pointed straight. I would love to have my family back together. any suggestions?