Steve, It's up to you whether you want to ruffle "pet pet's" feathers about the sleeping arrangements. If you want your bed back, then think long and hard how you will approach her about this.
Now, let's look into what may have triggered the crisis. The young lady didn't trigger the crisis, something else did. Think back to about 18 -24 months ago...what happened? Was she promoted, changed jobs, death in the family or a friend, health issue? How old is your youngest child? Something triggered it. The young lady was just the icing on the mlc cake and helped her slide gracefully into it. They all tend to "hang" w/the younger and different people once the crisis hits.
Will she come out of it? No knows the answer to that question. She may come out of it and keep a few habits that she's picked up along the way. You may or may not like the new and improved wife once the crisis is over. Then again, you may opt to walk away and wash your hands of her after battling the mlc monster for months, even years. Ultimately, the decision will be yours as to whether or not you want to reconcile. But, for the time being, keep the focus on your children and on yourself. If you over analyze her every move or comment, it will drive you totally insane.
Read the MLC Resources thread, ask questions and come here to vent. Most importantly, watch your finances and take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
