I'm still trying to get the same sort of advice into my thick skull. Thankfully I manage somehow not to do things that I feel I MUST. And I still don't understand why I'm doing it sometimes.
Where are my books? Stuck in the post!
Honey you are blessed with some of the "big guns" giving you some of the best advice. Please take it. I'd pay to get this advice. You're getting it for free. From people who care for you.