Let your lawyer lead you through the financial stuff. Assuming Dan has been doing retirement saving, you should get a good portion of it. Whatever you do, don't succumb to the temptation to just let him go. Thinking about it, a lot of the trouble he has gotten into seems to be a byproduct of his work and travel, in the end you should still get your share!
I hope he changes, but I'm not holding my breath. You need to be prepared, in any case.
And you are an amazing, incredible, and beautiful woman, inside and out!
