GIMA- I was kind of thinking the same thing about some kind of boundary around a date. I feel like he will just continue to delay forever if not. It's easier to stay numb than deal with your issues. But, I also have heard it won't work if he isn't the one to want it.... I don't know, it's so confusing. I guess if he want's to be with his family then he will see the benefit of getting treatment. I think someone asked me before if he had done any treatment and he did a 14 day in patient in August (OW took him, isn't that so sweat). But he relapsed shortly after. It was an aversion focused treatment and he really needs IC. He's got some really intense pent up stuff going on. Wouldn't be surprised if he was abused as a child or something that he has repressed. He says he knows he needs to get help but doesn't know if it will help and then just doesn't call. I could call for him but I thought that would be "co-dependent" behavior. I may offer this when I set the time boundary and see what he says.
