I didn't say much about it, but Steve, I agree with Trapt on finding the right therapist for your sitch. And make sure you study up with DB/DR, MLC resources here, anything you can find on MLC. This is your homework, and I hope you can start it immediately, to help head off other mistakes you might make. And get thee to a DB coach if at all possible!
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
