1. Part of her problem was that she feels I did too much "here's what I'm going to do, whether you want me to or not." I'm afraid she may take "I will" statements and me seizing the lead like those as me being the self that she wants to leave. I'm trying a 180 by giving her more control.
2. If I told her I was going to call to talk to the children, I'd never get to. Her parents are already screening calls through their phone mail - they have the phone turned off. The only way I'm going to get to talk to my kids on the phone is if she allows me.
3. However, I am making it quite clear in what little communications we do have that I'm busy, have a life, and am not sitting around depressed waiting for her to come back. I've started performing music in public again, something I haven't done for 5 - 6 years, for one thing. I tell the kids all about it in my letters to them - I have no idea if she's reading those as well.
The main problem is that, with her parents, she has all the control. It may work in my favor if it does go to court that she in essence lied to me to get the kids away from me, and then cut off all my contact, but I don't know.
Do you have a court order against you that stops you from seeing the kids?
Seriously unless she has something like this against you, then this is pretty much against the law.
She can't stop you from seeing the kids or talking to them on the phone.
What's wrong with you? Wake up! Her parents are not your kids parents. How did custody get determined? Maybe I'm late to this thread but have you been locked out of custody totally? If so how did that happen? Are the kids out of town/state? Who agreed to this? Why isn't anyone else making noise about this? Unless you're living in some backwards hicktown in bumf_ck idaho, you need to get this situation with your kids straightened out first. Never mind getting your wife back, that's secondary to this issue.
If you haven't spoken with a lawyer yet and neither has she and she has drummed up this child custody thing all of herself, it's illegal.
It's 2009, grab those raisins you call balls out of your wife's purse and start showing that you are the father of your kids by demanding joint custody of your kids and equal & fair visitation. I'm damn sure that you're wife probably wouldn't sit by twiddling her thumbs if the situation was reversed and you had done this to her.
This is definitely a power struggle and it appears you've given all of it away.
