Hi H, Thanks for checking in. Unfortunately no, I'm not having a good weekend, I may be in a crisis. But thanks for asking! Today H called me on his way over, saying he wanted to cut the grass. I had to be home to bathe one of our dogs so even though I didn't want to see him, because he'd want to "talk" again, said I'd see him later. Friendly, he asked if needed anything from store & was picking up dog food to bring over. Helped me bathe dog, etc. Unfortunately I played into his request to talk again, which as last weekend was more of the same. When I said I can't stop you but I prefer to work on the marriage, he said I know you do. But this is what I want. I held my line, kept emotions in check. Then he said he "informally" saw an attorney. Well, that kind of knocks it up a notch. My DB coach said in these conversations to put it back on him, not to help or make it easy. So I did not ask, what did he (atty) say? I just said well I have not. He pressed on - we need to talk about stuff, the house, the dogs etc. And can we talk tomorrow morning?? Nothing like trying to ruin my entire weekend!
He is trying to rush this, and frankly I'm not sure I should be talking to him about "stuff" if he's talking to an atty -informal or otherwise. Can anyone help? I need to stop agreeing to talk to him I know, but he's starting to really push this & I need to know if I have to get an atty. now. My heart is breaking but I'm also really worried about the next move. Anybody??
H, have you read the Divorce Remedy? If not, get it from your library or order used from Amazon. Keep posting & reading - there are some very helpful people on this board. I'm pulling for you!
