A quick question does the mid-life crisis only happen to people who don't have much self-awareness ?
Childhood issues seem to be the common theme. How was her relationship with her father? Somewhere along the line her emotional growth, and yes, I guess you could say self awareness too has be stunted.
She has reached a point in life where she must now deal with this. So on an emotional level, back in time she goes. I can't say for how long, but things get crazy and in her eyes, the pain, confusion and hopeless feelings she has are all your fault.
All your saying here makes sense. Her father loves her but I don't think he has ever been one to face issues as they are. For instance I have spoken to him about what is happening and he blames it all on me. In his mind she just needs space and her behaivour is a reaction to me.
I don't see that - her reaction is a reaction to her trying to deal with herself. She was sexually abused as a child and her parents never did anything about it - no counselling, no support - nothing. I have got her to go to a counsellor but I don't think she really worked these issues out. Her mother just upped & left the kids and has consistently run my wife down throughout her life.
I feel sorry for her and I have handled this badly but her behaivour has not been the behaivour of a rational adult trying to deal with their issues / happiness. I think she feels to get rid of the pain / unhappiness she needs something else. The pain she is feeling can only be resolved by her working on herself - but she will have to figure this out.
