If we can all find a way to box the pain, hurt, confusion etc... and refocus on ourselves earlier in the game, we would all be better off...
But, a certain amount of time HAS to pass before one is able to do this! You are right, but the time required that I mentioned is different for everyone, and it is necessary. It's good and it's right. And most certainly, one does get to where one is capable of focusing on oneself...and one gets stronger and wiser and grows...IF one is dedicated to doing 'the work'.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
