Ashlee, I think you will understand what I am going to attempt to say. We women start acting too much like a "wife" instead of a woman. Know what I mean? If your H's OW starts behaving like a wife, he'll be through with her.
I wonder if all our H’s wouldn’t be more interested in us if we started acting like we were OW instead of his W? I don’t mean to take on the personality or lack of moral character of OW, but I mean in our over-all feminine behavior.
Think about how the unmarried woman acts around the man she wants. Think about how she talks to him and LISTENS to him. How does she look when she knows she’s going to be seeing him? How does she act around his children, friends and family? If we’re honest, we know that it is all about trying to capture his heart and get him interested enough to want to return his love, time, and attention.
I remember how I worked to put my best foot forward when I was in the presence of my guy, and frankly I wanted him to be quite impressed with me! (lol) If only I had maintained that attitude after I M him.
Maybe your H is baiting you by TM, calls, etc., but OTOH, maybe he doesn’t want to truly cut all ties with you, either. If that’s the case, then you stand a very good chance in drawing him close to you again. In time, the OW is going to start acting more like a wife and become more demanding on him and the rose colored glasses are coming off! That’s when he will see that girl he fell in love with and chose to M. Be ready when he does.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
