STRESS! I have the day off to see apartments and there isn't a single place on the market that I want to see or haven't already seen. I just heard back from a broker about a place I've been super excited about. I called leaving message for her fri, sat, sun & mon trying to see it. She finally called back mon afternoon and said she'd show it that evening, but I work evenings. I called her again tues, wed, and couldn't reach her. Now she just called and said she rented it to the first person who saw it mon eve.
I am hysterical right now and bawling. I can barely take all the pressure. I have 3 wks to get out of here and i have no where to go.
Well if there's anything that can take my mind of bf, this is it
pretty hard to get a life when I can't even get a home. :-C I'm calming down. Telling myself that the gorgeous 3 bed, 2 bath brownstone duplex with a yard, washer dryer, 4 decorative fireplace mantels for only $1700!!! was not meant to be. My home is still waiting to be found for reasons unknown to me at this time. I can't let my daughter see how stressful the apartment search is getting. She's only 12, she doesn't need to worry about it or about me. I'm going to get busy with housework in the meanwhile. And truth is, even though I have a 30 day notice for Aug. 31st, that's just the Landlady's first step. From there she can seek legal action so I actually have another 60 days beyond that until I'd be forced to take an ugly apartment. Someone just advised me that since my apartment is illegal and not meant to be income bearing that LL would have to reimburse me for the 4 yrs rent I paid here if I took her to court. I'll look into that to see if it's truth or myth. Maybe that's why I can't find a place - something else is meant to be. Deep breathing. Going to lose myself in cleaning while I chant the lovely Hayatri. Peace will come.
Soon I hope that will be rest & relaxation for you. Finding a place in NYC can be a stressful event by itself w/out the addition of other stressful factors. I'll send some postive vibes from the West Coast your way, although something usually comes up @ the last minute I've found.
In reading your thread, your bf brings back memories of my brother. They had some disagreement that lead to her telling him if he didn't comply by Thanksgiving a moving truck would be @ the door. He didn't & away she went. He told me he couldn't back away at that point. She tells me she regrets giving him no exit. Sad, b/c I think it was over something kinda small & they may have been able to enjoy the last 6 yrs as an intact family.
Have to get dinner together right now, just wanted to send some well wishes your way.
Hi Sunny, Thanks 4 positive thoughts & well wishes. I appreciate it. The apartment search is getting to me. We saw one last night in a part of Bk I didn't even know existed. It felt like some mad max movie - it was so scary. So bad that I verbally agreed to take the next place I saw. The owner thinks I'm coming today to sign paperwork. But it's not the right place. I was feeling so desperate yesterday. This is the best I've seen, but it isn't it.
Lastnight I textd Marky about the docs on his flash cz I don't think he knows 2 put on his hd. Maybe should have injected humor, but I just did quick info. He responded within a couple mn saying, ok thx. He didn't have to reply, but he did. And he did so right away. I'll take it as another tiny positive. I feel like I just want to shake him and tell him to snap him out of it. Enough already. Miss him more than ever. I'm so stressed and feel so alone.
Meanwhile, I've changed the puppy's food and she's having the worst diarrhea. The smell has woke me up the past 2 a.m.s Disgusting and I'm sure glad BF isn't here for this! Ha ha. This would really put him over the edge.
My situation is no better today, but my mental state is! I was really feeling the pressure yesterday. Today is a new day. Thankfully it's not in my nature to wallow too long in such a miserable state.
Funny my apt. search took me to the same block bf owns house. His ex & son live there. I wondered if it was a brilliant idea or potentialy really bad. Anyway, apt was way too small & they lied about it having a back yard so it is not to be. On my way to see 2 places b 4 work.
thanks. I am not paying rent. but I think it's only ok to do that if the money sits in an acct w/ my & LL name. What's illegal (among other things) that I referred to is that there is no certificate of occupancy. LL changed the 125 yr old home from a single family to 3 apts with no city work permits or without the c of o. Therefore she can't legally charge rent because it's not listed with city as an income bearing property. I wonder what tax she pays on it? But tons of the renovations she did are illegal. For instance my upstairs dwelling entrance is a hollow core door like you'd put on an interior room as a bathroom. The only lock is the little brss thingy in the middle of the doorknob. Hardly secure, not up to fire code, and it's against the ny housing code. Should be steel or solid wood with a dead bolt lock. I have taken pics. Sent them to LL by email & by certified mail. She'd e very foolish to brign an eviction case against me. She doesn't know that I know what I do.
