Hope you are doing well. I had to chuckle at your S's actions, cuz I could see my S doing the same thing in that situation. Don't be too hard on him - he's dealing with a lot too. Just make sure to keep your H off your S's back. I would tell H his choices come with consequences, and while S may not have properly expressed his emotions ( ), his emotions are not a surprise given the circumstances. They come from the fact he loves his father and sees that R crumbling.
Thank you GIMA. My thoughts exactly. S is waiting for his father to call him but I'd rather that didn't happen. H does need to learn to deal with the consequences of his actions.
Me: 39 H: 39 S: 15 M: 18 years Bomb: 6/3/09 H moved out: 10/15/09 H moved back:5/30/10
), his emotions are not a surprise given the circumstances. They come from the fact he loves his father and sees that R crumbling. 
