Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[Faith2010]

I would never suggest you make light of this serious situation. It's good that your son is able to talk to you about what he's going through. Is there anyone else he can talk to? Counselor, pastor, uncle, etc.??


The problem I have with the concept of "stealing" a person, is that it takes the responsibility off of your H. Think about it, if she did "steal" your H, then he was a helpless, mindless, victim, unable to change this situation. This is certainly NOT the case.

Unless you're thinking to take all responsibility for this away from your H and just blame OW??

Sorry, just a little confused.

Your S should not be on her FB page - it won't help him. Is this OW a person that he knows from before the A?

And you're doing great, by the way. I've been following along for awhile - you're getting stronger.

Also, I checked out BillyClay's thread. It's hard to post, he seems very confused.

Stacy

Thanks Stacy. I didn't mean to come across like you were telling me to make light of the sitch to S. I'm just trying to get a handle around it and respond the best way I can. I want to make sure S knows I'm here for him.

S saw a counselor last year when he was having problems with kids bullying him (about his acne). Aren't kids great? Anyway, I was thinking of taking S back and after this morning, I will. S does have family and friends he talks to but I think it's time for a professional.

I definitely don't want all the blame on OW and not on H. H is the one who crossed the line. That was 100% H's choice. OW can take responsibility for her choices with her own family. She means nothing to me.

I do understand what you mean by stealing and you are right. My point is I don't think this is the time to point out to S that she didn't 'steal' his father. Deep down I think S knows this. Why he worded his e-mail the way he did, I don't know.

No, S does not know OW. S can't get on her FB page but he has the ability to send her a message.