My two favorite ladies. I promise when I'm dirt rich I'll fly you both over so your can have the time of your lives. And mine
Back to business - really trying to work out why "friend" is talking about other people "taking sides". The only person who seems to be doing it is "friend". W told everyone that they MUSTN'T do this. They are free to do what they wish without fear of hurting her.
Why the heck is this b!t#h stirring things? Controlling things? Why the heck doesn't my W see these things?
Oh - not wishing to jinx things but still no summons from the court (should be the 17th). Short week next week. Public holiday Monday. Woman's day! Thank you ladies.
Catch u later.
If you have ANY insights into why the b! is doing this. How she is feeling etc. Highly appreciated (even if it's wrong). Cos I'm stumped.
What really bugs me (but I won't show it) is that W can't see the crud that the OW is causing to everyone she touches. W saw it once and will see it again. Until then - everything forward and all that.
You know that this thread of mine has got so long I've forgotten some of the great advice given by you guys.
I'm going to take some time and read the whole thing again and summarize.
It'll give me something to do while I wait for the books!
Thankfully it was your gentle touch in reminding me and not puppy beating the thing into me. Thanks honey - you keep getting in there first
Here we are 8 in the morning on a beautiful day. Full load of washing just gone in. Going to get the stuff hung up asap so I can get out and about.
Another tri-nations rugby natch on at 5 this afternoon. SA vs Australia. Hope my Bok shirt will be dry by then.
Hope you all have the sweetest of dreams.
Going to drink my first coffee of the day (with full cream milk for a change) and catch up with the ups, downs and sideways of the rest of you.
There comes a time though when enough is enough with the verbal abuse and absolute rudeness we will tolerate from a WAS.
If she is angry at you that is her issue to own and work through. Or, she can stay angry and bitter forever. Either way its her choice. However, its high time she clearly understand you will no longer tolerate her lashing out at you.
MY problem is that my W is simply not communicating at all. She's leaving it all up to the OW "friend". It's the "F" that is being rude, aggressive and angry (after all she's lloking after my W now with all the attendant worries of supporting her.
I'd LOVE to send something like you did to my W but re-worded to include the b!tch who is causing all the trouble.
You sound much better in this last post...Had me worried for a few...Didn't want you to backslide
You are right, in time she will see it again however that is going to require patience from you...I for one am not a patient person at all...I have zero tolerance to wait for anything however this journey has taught me how to have patience...
If the F is rude, aggressive or angry to you - walk away...Don't show any emotion to her because number 1 - You owe the F nothing, nada, zip, zilch, zero and number 2 - it isn't between the F and you...If your W doesn't communicate - so be it however she needs to grow up and stop sending someone else to do her dirty work...
This journey we are all on because of our spouses, may suck at first, however I am coming to the conclusion, it doesn't really suck so much if you look at it the right way...
If we can all find a way to box the pain, hurt, confusion etc... and refocus on ourselves earlier in the game, we would all be better off...
There have been things that have come out of this that I wouldn't trade for anything...I have learned that I am responsible for my own happiness...I have learned to rely on my inner strength and faith...I have learned to not need anyone for anything because I am strong enough to do it on my own however if something comes up, I have learned to ask for help...I have learned to no longer fear the unknown - whatever it is, I will be just perfect...I have learned that there may be days where I am on the floor weeping with every fiber of my being but I will eventually get up and carry on...I have learned it is ok to be brokenhearted, angry, sad, hurt, confused, lonely etc...As long as you don't let those feelings/emotions take over you...I have met some wonderful people on this journey in real life as well as here and that alone is priceless
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
