I want my Monkey and Sheep Back

[beepee]

Thanks for the support Karen. OK everybody. Here is the email that I just received, a really sh*tty email.

"I just looked at your email and its really really long,
so I can't read it all now,
but I read the last paragraph, and I still don't understand why you keep thinking that I don't want to see you
and that I may leave or whatever, without seeing you.
How many times do I have to tell you that I miss you too? That I want to give you a hug too, but cant.
This is over B, we're getting a divorce, and I'm not happy about it in one sense, but I also know it's for the
best.
I read your paragraph about my parents and coming over to Ireland and I don't think you understood what I was
trying to point out. I wasn't trying to say that you should be grateful for their love and I wasn't saying that you did
something wrong, I was trying to tell you where they were coming from, not you, 'cos I can't speak for you, and I was
trying to describe what they were going through so you'd have an idea of what was going on in the background.
I was in no way at all trying to get at things in the way that you picked up on, and it worries me that you couldn't see
that. I felt you were being very defensive, and I expect that, but it's too hard. It's too hard to explain all these things
when every little comment, and every little act, when it's all misunderstood.
But then again, that's what I was living every day.

I'm back to being overwhelmed.
So, anyway, I'm not stressed about it and I'm not trying to project any negativity towards you, I'm just taken aback.

I wish it was easier to communicate with you,
but these emails are too long, there's too much hurt and I can't do this every day. We have to start letting go, and
leaving all those thoughts behind. **** said to you more than 6 months ago, if you can't let it go then maybe you
guys have to split. Taking all the negativity with us everday, wherever we went, work, shopping whatever, it was all turning
into a monster, and it wasn't an amazing thing, you know that. It was a terrible terrible struggle.

The signature I was asking of you, like I said before, does not involve anything other than signing your name and dating a form.
The form is to confirm that we got married. There are no legal ramifications to signing it and no repercussions whatsoever.
The way it works is that I file the form and if it goes straight through, which 80% do, there are no further forms or interviews and
you are not put in a position that is uncompromising. If things change after filing that form, something like filing for divorce, then
there are no repercussions. I have spoken to 3 separate attorney's about this, all immigration experts.

I'm sorry, I've just read the paragraph you wrote about the professional advice you got regarding my emails
and being manipulative and stuff. Their advice seems to me to be unprofessional, and that may be for two
reasons. 1. They're not very good at their job. 2. You are not telling them the whole truth.

I'm not writing any more now,

I'm very very disappointed at that 'advice' that you received,
if you actually did, I just can't tell anymore,

I should stop emailing you, if that person you're talking to believes
that I'm being manipulative and trying to give you a guilt trip, then
I really have to think twice about contacting you for a very very long time.

That is not my intention, and I will not be misunderstood. I have gone
OUT of my way to try to explain things in as impartial and objective
a way as possible.

If that person you are talking to is giving you this advice in order to make
you feel better about yourself, then I'm sure it's working.
But to me, it's [censored] bullshit.
If they knew the parameters and the intricacies of our relationship and
exactly what's happened here, I would hope they wouldn't impart that kind of advice.

I'm really sorry you didn't get the job,
I hope you sold enough stuff on ebay, it was looking good,

have a good weekend

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