Thanks Cat, it is late here in Melbourne Aust. 12.14am Sunday morning, should be in bed, but can't. He listed his complaints to me the first time he left, I implemented changes which he acknowledged, but it obviously made no difference. I still continue with those changes. He didn't feel he needed to change apart from trying to spend more time with us.
H picked up D from party, pulled into driveway about 20 mins ago, dropped D off and told her to tell me he would be back in the morning. Bam that was out of the blue. D has asked what is going on. Told her as best I could. She told me that she has not liked him for a number of years as he was always putting her down, never encouraging, she always felt that she was not liked by him. She has cried and let go of her feelings to me. I have not made any nasty comments about her father. She is sitting here eating peanut butter from the jar now.
I have decided that his actions tonight are cowardly and driven by guilt, he did indicate tonight that he really does not care about the destruction he is causing, all he cares about is himself and his needs now. I almost think he is mentally unwell at present. Maybe I didn't handle things well tonight, I don't know, live and learn from my mistakes and take notice of advice that I get here.
Who knows what today will hold when he comes back, he will most likely gather up clothes and go. I suppose I will let him go not sure what I will say to him though, really should get some sleep now.
