back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

Wifey. Thanks. You are correct. Friend who went through this recommended. I thnk your book selection is a million times better. The detaching seems to be working well. I am feeling more upbeat. Wife went out other night. I was not waiting up. No lights on. 2 am I hear this large noise. jump up out of bed thinking it was 1 of the kids. Wife stumbling down the stairs. Clearly drunk. Ask what is wrong. W says she Is looking forger water bottle in the dining room. I find her bottle in the kitchen hand it to he and went back to bed. I usually would have cared for her. But I didn't. I am pissed she was drinking and driving. And he meds do not mix with drinking.

Ne t night I went out with friends. W waited up for me. 2 + hours past her normal bed time of 9. And wanted to know all about my night. Kept is short with little detail.

Went for a run the next morning and picked up trash from my nieghbors lawn left over from garbage day. I get in the house and look at it. It wa my W notes from calling about a dozen lawyers about divorce. W comes down that morning and says her good morning and then lays on the bed to talk to me. Hasn't happened in 4 weeks. Sh asks what is a matter and I give her the papers. W says God has a funny way of geting us to talk. W says she was in a bad place and started learning what her options were. Says she threw them away as she is not going down that path. She gives some reasoning why and I said I understand and I am not mad. It just hurt to find it laying on the nieghbors lawn.

The old me would have been all over it. I have to say even I have noticed how long a away I have come in 8 months.

Thanks for your input it is as always very helpful. I will pick up a couple of those books today.