what, the "stay out of my life completely t" ....? I am so used to these expressions that I oughta to be able to say that it's water off a ducks back. which is sad to almost be able to say. trouble is that while a very small part of me recognizes the distinct possibility that it is just a part of the pattern that she has used all along (especially limiting it to TM rather than talking to me), it would seem that the greater part of me has what remains of my heart completely exposed to her ....abuse of my heart ..for lack of a better term.
Originally Posted By: stuck
I thought that after you and her had made up that she moved back with you. I guess that got lost in the shuffle.
I had an apartment (a rather roomy 3 bdrm place ...kinda carrot and stick sorta thing) that I was in from 8/08 - 5/09. And she would often come over there but only for the longest stretch of maybe like a week ..never moved in ...partly cuz she was out of work and not receiving a paycheck and would then feel like an imposition ..or something. That coupled with the "let's just take things nice and slow" concept. Meanwhile, in living under the ex's roof she was equally "imposing" just the same over there.
Originally Posted By: stuck
Hang in there though. Do you think her first H could be trying to get back with her?
while I already commented a bunch on this in a previous one, i just had a little more to add. Obviously any R or feelings for a person can be one-sided. Don't ask me how I or anybody else around here would know of this ..almost lol. So that distinct thought has been on and off my mind for quite some time as it pertains to the dynamic between her and her ex. But even at that it is not too heavy a thing on my mind. I know that she only speaks for her and her feelings and in doing so I feel pretty solid that she is telling the truth. He is a nice guy a few years older than W but he is a workaholic at the complete and total expense of any personal life. And what personal life he has is kinda typified by listening to old show tunes and movies circa 1950..which my W detests. Well she detests more things than not but that is a whole nother dealy.
Originally Posted By: stuck
Sorry again for the pain you are going through.
thanks for the condolences. But whatever pain that I am surely experiencing is not of the magnitude of that which my W is. Mine is limited to my heart. Her's is more far reaching than that. In a nutshell ..she is not comfortable in her own skin and I don't think she has ever been. She is caught up in the world and all it's deceit. That's enough on that.
