I'm back. Surgery went well and I am slowly but surely making my way back. Thanks for thoughts and prayers.
H rang twice and came to visit with the kids on the third night and again a few night's later which was D's birthday. The hospital is about an hour's drive away so it did involve some effort. The first visit he was a little quiet but stayed an hour or so and there was no question of him not coming into the room. Fortunately nobody else was there at that time.
H was more involved the second visit and seemed fairly comfortable. He stayed about 1 1/2 hours and bought a cake with him for D. which we shared.
He saw my parents a couple of times and I believe things were polite and cordial but I don't really know too much more.
I sent him a text to say when I was returning home and he replied to say 'ok. great. thanks' No more to report!
cp, thanks for ur positive words. I will read up on ur sitch just as soon as I can muster the energy!!!
Bonny, as always I appreciated ur feedback and it made wonderful sense
