Yep, another WAW - in last resort

[lonelywolf]

Coach, I might agree, but for two things:

1. Part of her problem was that she feels I did too much "here's what I'm going to do, whether you want me to or not." I'm afraid she may take "I will" statements and me seizing the lead like those as me being the self that she wants to leave. I'm trying a 180 by giving her more control.

2. If I told her I was going to call to talk to the children, I'd never get to. Her parents are already screening calls through their phone mail - they have the phone turned off. The only way I'm going to get to talk to my kids on the phone is if she allows me.

3. However, I am making it quite clear in what little communications we do have that I'm busy, have a life, and am not sitting around depressed waiting for her to come back. I've started performing music in public again, something I haven't done for 5 - 6 years, for one thing. I tell the kids all about it in my letters to them - I have no idea if she's reading those as well.

The main problem is that, with her parents, she has all the control. It may work in my favor if it does go to court that she in essence lied to me to get the kids away from me, and then cut off all my contact, but I don't know.