shee needs individual counseling, you are not responsible for her happiness, I mean that while you are her H you are not entirely responsible for her behavior. She sounds depressed, she prob needs some theraphy and/or antidepressants, sounds like she might've been trying to fill that void she has with other men (obviously it hasn't been working, we all know that affairs are just bandaids and crutches to escape reality).
In the meantime find a sitter once a week and do something together, take a dancing class, join some sort of club of an interest she hasn't had time to fulfill, etc etc.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
