I still have a soft spot for "the man formerly known as H". Sorry if I disappoint you and John. Maria, you do not disappoint me. Much like FIB, yourself and many others (I am sure) I also still have a soft spot for XW. It is weird that even after we have been lied to and betrayed, some feelings remain. I sense in some of your posts that you are shifting the blame away from your husband (to his mistress and to your mom). Do not loose sight of the real culprit. Try to relax on your vacation (I know that will be a tall order). You need time to heal like we all did...some day you may even be able to forgive your H. However, it is time to concentrate on you, the kids and your immediate family (including your mom). We all react differently to our loved ones getting hurt. You saw and read some very hurtful material in the last 48 hrs. It will take time to digest...a long time. You do have a choice as we all do. Dwell on the past or concentrate on the future.
