All of your accomplishments cannot be undone b/c it should have been all for your benefit anyways, not your W's benefit. YOU are the one who is becoming a better person b/c of your hard work. If you're doing this DB thing correctly, your W is simply a bystander in this process.
This DB thing alone will not bring back your W. Just ask Gucci. If it were simply a matter of self-improvement, your W would already be back with you. There's more to it...your W will eventually have to shocked into realizing that there will come a day where she can/will lose you. My W blinked when she finally realized this possibility.
There will come a point in time when your W will have to decide whether or not to begin the reconciliation process. This cannot go on forever! As I mentioned in a previous post, your heart will only endure so much before shutting down. Trust me on this one b/c I'm living it in my situation. My W and I have started the reconciliation process, but as we know, there are no guarantees...I'm not very optimistic.
You're doing a great job. Don't give up. I'm pulling for you, LFH
ME: 38 W: 35 D2.5 and S5 Married 12 years Separated (same house, different rooms) INILWYAM by W: 4/16/2009 The day W requested a D: 4/17/2009
