Who is this stranger living in my house?

[The Wifey]

MLJ,

Unconditional love does not mean you have to baby him. You might ask if its healing well. Let it go at that. As far as treating him, treat him like he is a business partner. Try reading Citygirl's threads for inspiration.

Your H sounds a lot like his.

You grow in Christ by letting go and letting God. And if you think you should soften the blow when he falls AT ALL, just know that isn't God's plan.

Those ex-friends were obviously never Your friends. They just accepted you when you with H. They are nothing. They don't matter. Who cares what he tells them, because God knows the truth and he blesses you twice because of it. H, not so much.