forgot to add- there is an excellent article in the NY Times online (August 2, 2009) called "Those Aren't Fighting Words, Dear". While not associated officially with "DBing", at least not that I know, it wonderfully illustrates Michele's techniques and philosophy on how to deal with midlife crisis- how to "fight" for your marriage- in the manner most likely to work...
also, if you can afford it, the DB phone counseling is superb. I once talked to someone named Joanne, who was terrific- not sure if she is still around...
