I see you registered in January of this year. What's the story? Grumpiness, not in love w/you anymore, blahblahblah (yet you're all still int he same home?).
If you truly asked her how you communicated here, I thought it was pretty polite, actually! Sheesh! I mostly asked the question, because I know how it would come from me if I had to ask it! Lots more colorful!
I think you should at least try to speak to the guy. See if he can hold eye contact. See if he can carry on a convo w/you. And, do it in front of her. See if she squirms. (Not sure how good of an actor you are...)
My other questions... Why would you think it would be a pretty lousy physical affair? Do you two do anything together on your own anymore? How are your kids (I know daughter is pissed at the mom) doing w/her overall? Are they more joyful if she's not around? Do they act normally no matter who they're with (you, her, you and her)?
I have an idea that worked for me/us. It got us out of the miserable stage, and into an enjoyable friendly state. We're inching past that now, but at a snails pace, but this approach did work. In fact, it almost reminds me of that article someone posted on here from NY Times (a few days ago). Need to know her demeanor/beef w/you first...
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
