Trusting, I too face that problem in the future. Here is the plan I came up with. You can contact the funeral home and request an after hours final good bye. I hear it is done all the time. That way it is about you.
And you get to avoid any uncomfortable situation.
I will be honest,I am not sure if I will do this or not. But I thought I would throw it out there as an option. It is done ALL the time.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.