I'm going to continue seeing new guy & enjoying his company at the same time admitting I can fully understand what happens when someone is added to the mix. It definitely muddies up the water for any thought of R the M.
Although I personally find Dr. Laura hard to take, she hits the nail on the head regarding infidelity & the mess it creates in it's wake;
"If it isn't a lover who won't let go, then it's a pregnancy, attempted suicide, extortion, sexually transmitted disease, public humiliation for your spouse & children, disruption of generations of family ties, legal & financial battles, demoralization of your children & the loss of their foundation of safety, trust, & respect for you & for marriage. It's dirty, face it."
I can see the realization in my H, whose hair is now turning grey @ a rapid pace, that he failed to grasp what his choices would entail.
I do appreciate your thoughts Gypsy, as I appreciate all responses here. I'm able to process & come to my own choices on how to proceed, it's one of my strong points.
I have learned not to do anything quickly, most everything benefits from allowing time & consideration.
H left a vm b/f leaving town that he was really working hard to do discovery(?) & get back to me w/an another offer, but it's not going to happen until prolly a week after he returns in 2 weeks.
