I want my Monkey and Sheep Back

[SDFoundGirl]

Hi everyone, thanks for your advice but i had to do this.I emailed him back and told him i don't want to do this anymore

Sure you do that's why you responded. I make a prediction that you sign that immigration form for him by the deadline.
Rinse, lather, repeat.

Ditto. If you really didn't want to hear from him, if you were really done, you'd just delete his emails.

Are you going to take our advice at all? Most of us have been doing this for a long time and have been where you are or worse.

I found a love letter my H wrote to another woman, and as much as I WANTED to go down and rip him a new you-know-what, wake him up and just toss him out, I DIDN'T. He made me out to be sh!t, and she was just perfect. The man was living in my house, I found this, and I CONTROLLED MY *DESIRE* TO SAY SOMETHING.

I posted here. I took a walk at 1:00 in the morning. I wrote furiously in my journal. But in the morning, when he saw me, I said not one word, and he had no clue.

Was it hard? Yes. Because I WANTED to beat the snot out of him because it hurt. But I wanted my M more, the EA wasn't a deal breaker, and it was more constructive to bide my time until he'd recommitted and we'd dealt with the big issues he had with me...which, in the end, he found out was a bunch of assumptions on his part about me.

Your H is not doing this to you, YOU are doing this to you. Get control of yourself and your emotions and your REACTING and start being smart about this. *No matter if you're done or not.* You are not making your situation better, EVEN IF you end up divorced. You have a unique opportunity to grow and learn some things from your situation, but if you continue to REACT every time he lobs a bomb at you, you will learn nothing and will most likely repeat the same mistakes in your next R.

I'm sorry for the 2x4, but it is kindly meant.

SD