I want my Monkey and Sheep Back

[25yearsmlc]

"(Husband),

After much thought and prayer, I've decided that I cannot sign your letter. I simply can't pretend that our marriage is something that it clearly isn't, and I certainly won't lie on paper to cover up what you're doing here.

I hope you can find another way.

If you need to pick up any of your stuff, please let me know what would be a good time for you, and I'll arrange to have someone here to let you in and see you out. It needs to be by the end of the month, or I'll assume you don't want it, and will give it to charity.

I do wish you well.

Regards,

(Wife)"

This is the letter to send. Do NOT apologize for not being willing to commit perjury for anyone, let alone someone who left you. And stop defending yourself. The point you wanted to make (and brevity will do it better than the long defensive posture of your first letter) was two fold, you won't lie AND you are a different woman now. The more you talk about the past and defend yourself, the more you sound like your old self. Enough about that. You would surely do some things differently if given the chance. But you are not being given that chance...so move along and if he wants back in your life, it won't happen with a long letter/scorecard which is what it was.

And in the future, if your partner has to choose between you and all his friends/family b/c somehow you all cannot get along together....don't marry the guy. And take a long hard look at the R....(but that's for later. For now, be done with the email and send it off. Otherwise the wretching and giving him SO MUCH POWER over your life, is literally sickening. Seriously).

Please keep it short and simple and polite.
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