First Piecing Thread

[Puppy Dog Tails]

btw, one my my favorite Grass Roots songs is "Where Were You When I Needed You," and there's a great cover of it by the Bangles, if you've never heard it. It's one of those great "defiance" songs, like "Already Gone" by the Eagles, and "Time for Me to Fly" by REO Speedwagon.

[whatdidido]

[Hope4us]

Thanks guys, thanks a lot. And you're right Pup. Good, really good.

And I've never heard the Bangles cover of that song, but that was another one of the songs on the CD we were listening to last night. Don't know if it had an affect or not, but a lot of Grass Roots songs are like that, about relationships etc and they all seemed to have an affect. If you want to pick up a good CD, that one is it. It's called "Live at Last". I actually got Rob Grill's autograph on the CD cover when we saw them live (I bought it at the concert and he was signing after the show).

Anyway, Today has been really good again. Just a lazy day. Went to the grocery, got some chinese takeout, mowed the lawn and sat on the deck talking with W.

She was talking again about moving when S17 graduates and how she's ok with it and where would we live, etc. All in all, good stuff.

I'll check in later. I hate to jinx myself, but I'm getting to the point that I can almost start to feel comfortable enough to say this D has been busted! Now the hard stuff starts!

[JAK58]

JAK

[Hope4us]

Hey everyone. Only have a minute but I just had to post this.

The last couple days my area office (which I run) has been in a Dept of Transportation audit. We passed with flying colors!

Got a nice note from our Audit coordinator stating everything was satisfactory and the DOT auditor was impressed with everything. So I forwarded that to W and she replied "Good Job! That's Awesome!".

WOW. The times they are a changin!

Gotta run.

[kat727]

Congrats!! You should be proud. Sounds as if W is finally starting to get it albeit slooowwlly. I think you have been doing the hard part. Now you just have to remember to disengage the cruise control.

kat

[Hope4us]

Thanks Kat.

Thought I would post since it's been a while and since we're leaving for a week in Myrtle Beach tomorrow morning.

Things continue pretty much the same. W has had some angry outbursts at NOTHING a couple times in the last week, but I just let them go where in the past I would try to rescue her and make her feel better. I just pretty much ignore the outbursts and not long after she's back to normal. Don't worry, not angry at me, just angry at some insignificant stuff.

The other day, W and I were trading some IM's at work and we were talking about how hectic it is in the mornings for me, getting up and ready for work, trying to eat something, all while taking care of two dogs and getting my fix of SportsCenter. She told me she knew how hard it was because she'd done it before when the kids were young. I replied that I know she dealt with hectic mornings for OUR family for a long time while I was already at work and when I was out of town for work and that I never said thank you enough. She replied "stop it" and I replied "no I won't stop it. I took all that for granted and I was stupid to not recognize just how much she did for us and I would never take her for granted again" and she replied with a .

She's been talking more about moving back home next spring/fall. One job she used to have in the Law Dept for our company is coming open in a few months and she talked about how much she enjoyed her job in Law and I told her she could take the job and move back while I stayed here with S17 for the rest of the school year and she said that sounded ok, except she'd have to live with her mom to do it as we can't afford two residences and mom would be ok for oh, a weekend, but after that she'd probably kill her, so no, she'd stay until we all can move.

So that's what gets me the most. She's talking long term, like really long term and it's obvious she wants to be with me, but she still can't bring herself to say "I love you" or wear her wedding rings.

Oh well. It'll come. Just hope I still care when she finally gets there because I can feel it wearing on my soul.

Talk to ya in a week.

[kat727]

This crazy idea just hit me regarding your situation. Perhaps those rings remind her that she broke that vow. Have you thought about having a recommitment ceremony and maybe buying a simple yet elegant band? Fresh start you know. Sorry, I am always better at spending someone else's funds! LOL

kat

[Hope4us]

Ya know Kat, I had thought about that. Especially back in May when she told me she had tried her rings on and they just didn't look right so she took them off. I didn't say anything then because it took me so totally by surprise that I didn't know what to say, but after thinking about it, I wondered the same thing.

I would gladly go into DEBT to get her new rings if that was what she needed. Only problem is that in addition to wedding rings, she won't wear the anniversary ring I got her 4 years ago that I spent A LOT of money on. Wonder if she'd go for trading them in to off set the cost?

And I would renew our vows in a minute if she wanted something like that to start a new.

Thank you. You've given me a good idea on how to bring up the subject. Maybe next week an opportunity will present itself!

Thanks again.

[kat727]

Personally I would be able to part with the anniversary one, not sure about the wedding bands unless you were maybe able to use the gems and incorporate them into the new one. Just another idea.

Great minds think a like!

kat