Need some help on this one

[Hope4us]

Burt, I haven't followed your sitch, but your last comment/question ran pretty true for me. My W didn't say it first to me much before her A.

And my W hasn't said "I love you" now in almost two years, even when I say it to her. For all other intents and purposes, we're recovering nicely from her A. But it hits me hard that she can't/won't say it too. She shows me love, and when we ML now it's very passionate, but she can't bring herself to say it.

For me, I just have to decide if I can live like this. I'm hoping at some point she'll break down that last wall, but if she won't, am I ok with it? I will tell her at some point that I can't keep up without hearing those words from her, but if I do and she still can't, what will I do? Don't know.

I think you're in the same boat. I think what you're feeling is very real to you (and me too). Some might be ok with it, but if you're not, tell her. As long as you're in a place where you can have R talks with your W without it being a pressure sitch.

Hope that helps.