There have been too many words. You need action. When you set limits there have to be consequences. An action and a reaction. They DO NOT have to be ALL OR NOTHING consequences. ONLY YOU can set them, because ONLY YOU know what you can live with. But your words AREN'T working.
No more words. ACTION. DO SOMETHING.
Brainstorm some options here:
Leaving, throwing him out are the drastic options....they ARE options. But first ... brainstorm some other consequences....you will no longer give him your time OR you will no longer cook or clean for him OR ?????
I woke up this morning thinking the same thing. I will start with my time. H gets too much of it and acts as if nothing is wrong. No more.
I wish I could say I feel better this morning. I feel drained, heartbroken and determined. Determined to no longer partake in his game.
It does take so much energy. And it takes more energy INITIALLY to DO something and stick to your guns.
Eventually, it will take LESS energy to use ACTION instead of the debates.
I feel your pain.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
