Yes, I like that Cat-that MLCers are doing it their own way;that means we`re giving them space to do that AND accepting that their way is just as valid as ours(even if it is a more circuitous route!Yawn!)
That bit about pushing buttons to make you very angry or upset and blaming you for everything....It took me a along time to realise that was H`s objective too. Now I`m walking the tightrope of calm while establishing boundaries too.
Just doing that alone takes me out of the crazy dance.
Its interesting to read about all the MLCers/WAS or whatever they are-having very dominant mothers and/or difficult childhoods.
Glad you`re seeing some progress with your communication.
