I want to post a thread here to get others take on a recent development in my situation.
My family has been involved in a "family orientated althetic activity" for a couple years now. As a family and individuals we enjoy it and are very involved. However, the distance between as a married couple has grown such that what started out "family orientated" has become I go, then she goes at a different time and we usually take turns taking the kids when it is their class. We are also at different levels of our instruction so going at different times is understandable as the class schedule can focus on our particular level of training. Hence, we developed seperate partners for our training.
Here is my dilemma. My wife has always been a very outgoing person, talkative, can strike up a conversation with anyone about anything. I have always admired that about her and her ability to form friendships. However, I have noticed a little friendship forming with one of her male partners. Now, I notice this guy comes early and waits for her, whatever he is doing makes sure he gets in the same area as her when she shows up. Always glancing over and they are always smiling at eachother. My wife is talking to him constantly. And it seems their making it to class is coordinated so to participate together. Maybe a little jealousy issue on my part but I notice he will not look me in the face.
This is just what I have noticed. I had not been hanging over the situation or going out of my way to find out what they are talking about. I have had some issues of concern with my wife in the past but I have been very proactive and have uncovered no infidelity. But things are to the point now that the relationship is ripe for an affair on either of our parts.
Now, a couple weeks ago, out of the blue, a woman, more a friend of hers than mine, comes up to me and asks, "what is going on between your wife and so-and-so." I asked what do you mean, and was given a repsonse of "I dont know. maybe its nothing." I didnt push for more information because it seemed like she didnt want to provide it nor did I confront my wife with this. I just sat back and observed, and realized that yeah this little friendship is abit obvious.
A couple days ago I decided to confront her about this and get attacked with, "your an a-hole" "this marriage sucks" "Its nothing I just like training with him" "Can't believe you would suggest anything like that" etc.
