I know the feeling of hanging on to every word and action from the WAS and turning it into a question or hope thet they will come back. I continue to do it sometimes but to a much much lesser degree. Words mean squat if they are not accompanied by actions. Lack of action for a prolonged period of time by a male is not a good sign (not sure about women). I have said this in the past and I believe it more and more every day. I shake my head at the similarities between WASs. Unfortunatelly, I agree with Jeff. The general theme in these parts is to be encouraging and supportive. We all need that at the beginning...maybe up to a year after the bomb. At some point we as LBSs need to move on...face reality. It is very difficult to do and sometimes we need some help. That is probably what your mom was trying to do a few days back. BBJ, we have been supporting each other for a long time. With recent events (K), perhaps it is time for me to take the same type of tone that your mom did.
*He cheated on me not once, or twice, but with three different women. (That I know of)
*He moved out of our house, left me, even when I forgave him for cheating
*He blames me for his not buying the farm, said it was the one time he needed my support and I didn't give it to him. Yet, how many things has he done that I disagree with? If he wanted it badly enough he would have gone and done it. Don't recall him needing my permission to carry on a 20 month affair...
*He left me, but wants to throw a pity party that he has no home and has a 'shitty' life. He admitted himself that every aspect of his life has gotten worse since he left me...of course he just turns it around and blames me
I know you (and some others here) are very religious. I am not sure your God would say to turn the other cheek forever. What I am trying to say is perhaps the praying should focus on teh almighty giving you and your kids the strength to move on. When I read your post above coupled with the pornography and strippers etc., not to mention that he has purchased his own home and is seeing a lawyer....BBJ, I say this with the outmost respect; you can and will do better and you deserve ALOT better.
