I think it's time to stop acting like his life, and start acting like a roommate or (not best) friend.
Sandi just posted this on another thread, but it describes really well what I'm trying to say about how you should begin to treat him, Ashlee. Substitute "him" for "her", obviously:
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Have you worked along side people in the workforce who you were cordial to but you were emotionally detached to them? That is how we mean to be lovingly detached to your W. The fact that you could show a sense of frindliness and even some warmth but yet you do not let her pull the puppet's strings and control your moods is what she will notice. It is not about controling her or her controling you. It is about you taking charge of your emotions and focusing on your life instead of centering every word and deed around her. Whatever she says or whatever her mood, you don't sway from your PMA. PMA doesn’t mean to act like a “clown” in the face of seriousness, but it is what it says…a positive mental attitude. You put your own personality into that PMA to own it. It is not fake if you make it your own personal PMA and live that way from day to day.
