I read your posts on Jmans' thread last night. You can put your own pain aside to help another member who seems to be in a bad place, and that says what kind of man you are. I admire that. Even though you were going through a bad night, you saw him on the edge and was there for him trying to give support. BJ, I hope while she & the kids are gone on this trip that you can have time to reach out to other people here on the board b/c I think you have valuable information and are an encourager. I think you could reach men & women with your advice b/c you have that talent. They need you if you feel up to doing that. Glad you have plans to stay busy. I hope her hug meant something, too. But we've learn (I hope) not to set up for disappointment.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
