Being me, looks like you are my only supporter, I thank you from my heart darling for replying to me. Well it is sons 15th birthday on Monday, dad wants to take him out shopping for some birthday treat, karting is also booked for the sunday again for them both, and ex as asked if he can definately see son before we go away on hols in a couple of weeks as he would like to give him some spends to go. Hope it keeps up I truly do, and I also hope his wifey keeps well and truly out of their new relationship, after all it was her that killed it last time. fingers crossed and much trust in the lord at this time xx
Yeah, gifts are nice, but it's the time spent together that lasts in the memory.
I hope it lasts --- a father/son relationship is very important. I know you did the right thing, and I also hope that OW butts out.
Happy birthday to your son.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
ML, Also, as far as you...you are doing the right thing. Most of the time, NC is best for the sanity but not when children are involved. Your poor son does have a lot to process here.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
Being Me and Forward, thankyou for your replies. I do feel I have done the right thing in this, but who knows. I have totally done this for my son and I suppose in a way for his dad, I just felt that after 2 1/2 years things were not going to improve between them at all because they were like two bulls in separate corners, I feel it as gone on too long and without my intervention nothing was going to spark between them, I think they were both afraid of contacting each other in case of rejection, and also ex as admitted to me that he was afraid of this and that he didnt know how to contact son without coming through me, in a way I suppose he was afraid of how I would react to him contacting me also, I have not done this for me I never expect a relationship with ex again now, but I am at a place where I am willing to talk with ex regarding son and am willing to be a friend should he ever needs one. like I say zero expectations on my behalf but do hope dad and son can pull through this, although son will never ever forget what he has been put through, i hope he can put it on one side and have a realationship with his father, x
all is well, son and ex went out again yesterday, son had a good time, on his return I went to let son in through the garden gate and ex called me and actually spoke nicely to me. today he texted me this morning and then came and picked son up to take him for a tv that son was buying himself out of his birthday monies, again I chatted to ex and it was a relief that we can now actually chat without any nastiness, for now anyway, he couldnt look at me but then again i dont expect him to, he dropped son off and again after leaving he rang me and chatted for a good half hour. I am pleased that we can get on now with no nastiness etc, I dont want to go back to all that fighting and spewing, I am pleased my son is happy again and wish them both a succesful re-union,. me I will chat and be friendly with ex, I can do it now, I couldnt before, just wonder if ex is realising what he as lost, he keeps enquiring about mine and sons forthcoming holiday, boy I bet he wishes he was coming with us, who knows; at least son is happy, and happy birthday today to him as he turns 15 years old xxxxx
Mandy, Congrats to you for making the right moves here. I am so happy for your son. Your situation struck me as one of the coldest ones, that he cut off contact with your son.
I think you're absolutely right, that he is curious about what you are up to.
It's great that you can be friendly--the anger has to go, I learned. Are you still interested in X?
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
Forward, thank you for your reply, I am really really pleased that son and ex are connecting again and I can only hope and pray it lasts,. as for me am i interested in x, I can say I do still really care about him and wouldnt want to see any hurt come to him, I would like to think that he could come to me if ever he needed a friend, that is all I can be to x now is a friend, I couldnt see it going any further and I definately wouldnt pack my home in for him after what he did. we will see how it goes. also the fact that we now have a dog must be a sign to x that we moved on as he cant go anywhere near the dog or anywhere it as been due to the fact that he is allergic to dogs.
