Agh! He's detached completely!

[IWillSaveOurMarr]

Bluerain, thanks for your post & support! You're right in that I definately do not want a rebound thingie going on with Gizmo, he's worth it to wait, but like you said, it's really hard when you are getting nothing positive from your spouse at home, and in fact for me it's 99% negative. I too am enjoying getting reinforcement that I'm loveable by someone, still considered attractive, can pronounce words correctly 95% of the time (H critizes me on on this all the time and it's annoying as heck). and that I'm a fun person who is fun to do things with. I haven't done a damn thing with my H in months and months. Seriously, all we do is barely coexist here in the house.

I hear you that having a rlsp outside of the marriage is not good if you want the marriage to survive, but I no longer think that is an option for us. I think my H is one of those people Michele talks about in DB, that's set his mind one way, and that's how it is for him, and he cannot fathom changing it at this point. My therapist agrees, unfortunatley, because really, he hasn't wavered one iota since he said he was "done" with this and in fact has gotten more adamant about it and further entrenched.

Trust me on the fact that I'd be over the moon if he were to change his mind and stop the divorce, but I don't think that it is possible for him.